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R.I.P Mistress Aveline

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Photo by kitling (c) 2006

R.I.P AVELINE DE RAIS RUBINSHTEYN
January 25, 1968 - January 28, 2007



Aveline, or Ave (which ironically means 'Hail'), was not much younger than I am. That is to say she was young. Only in her late 30's. In that short time she affected so many people around her the numbers are hard to count.

From her time 'working' in the mid 80's, her constant and consistent involvement in the punk and alternative music and lifestyle scenes, her constant struggle and activism for equality in the sex-industry for both male and female sex-workers, her tireless times with SWOP, especially in Canberra. She was a punk, who loved pink. That alone flew her banner of diversity, everything else was pink frosting on a very fulfilling and diverse cake.

I've known her for so many years. Since I was living in Canberra, way back then, I knew her well. Although at that time, not as well as later years. We had many MANY things in common, we shared a lot and she helped me turn some things about myself around. She helped me accept some things about myself which I had issues with, and for that alone I will be eternally grateful (and yes, I was fortunate enough to tell her this a few years back). We shared interests, 'lifestyle' tips, stupid drunken times, and a lot of personal things which I will forever be grateful and and feel honoured that she shared with me. We spent many many hours together over the years just talking - and I was very fortunate enough to call her a close friend.

A little while back, she moved to Melbourne, and whenever she was in Sydney we caught up. We tried to make it happen whenevr she was in town. It was a kind of pact. "Weird-ass fucks like us need to stick together..." she'd say, "We're some of the only normal people we know...". and we did, as often as we could. We weren't pretentious with each other, we were just friends. Good close friends, who shared a common bond. We never got 'involved', we didn't have to. It was always there between us.

Recently, I was to catch up with her during one of her visits up to Sydney, but was working here in Canberra instead, so I missed her. I missed her. For the last time, it seems. I'm so sorry I did, as we caught up every other time she was in Sydney. She loved life - she lived life - hell, in a way she WAS life. She never grew old. Nor will she ever, although I doubt she would have anyway - she was like me, or rather - I am like her - live life, don't take shit and don't ascribe to stereotypes. 'Don't let the bastards tell you what you can and can't do'. I don't, she didn't. I think we taught each other that.

Aveline, suffered an aneurysm on her birthday. Though rallying briefly, she didn't recover. Her life-support was turned off this morning and she passed away very quickly thereafter. She is survived by her family... the one she chose. She leaves behind a legacy of so many people whose lives she joined and were a part of. She was 39.

I wish I was there with her other friends in Melb right now at Big Day Out. They'll Dance up a storm for her. I'll be there in spirit. Thank you for being a part of my life. A part more important than I could ever have explained.... but I think you already knew that.

Look out up there, muthafukkas! She's on her way to shake you up!! Listen to her, she's wiser than the lot of you put together!

I will miss you, Ave, badly.

Comments

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crazyjane13
Jan. 28th, 2007 04:55 am (UTC)
That was beautiful, Craig. Thank you for posting that.

solastuan
Jan. 28th, 2007 05:02 am (UTC)
I didn't know her, sounds like that makes me unlucky.

many hugs and well wishes to you and all who are mourning her.
missdissent
Jan. 28th, 2007 05:23 am (UTC)
Very sorry for your loss, Craig. Hellfire will also miss her bright coloured outfits... I have a picture somewhere of her in a pink quilted dress and a pink spiked hair-do, which lives long in my memory of best outfits. X
vodkanoodles
Jan. 28th, 2007 05:56 am (UTC)
*love*
sugar_plum_fair
Jan. 28th, 2007 06:22 am (UTC)
Wow, she what an amazing person.

Only the good die young.

My condolences.
frankdog
Jan. 28th, 2007 10:09 am (UTC)
I cant believe That a person can hurt so much and still ahve to go on.

She was...

well, thats it folks..

She WAS! Special to so many poeple in so many ways...


I just feel so fucking helpless.
aussiemandias
Jan. 28th, 2007 11:30 am (UTC)
It sounds like she helped us both.

This fucking sucks.

I am going to link the image to my LJ if you don't mind.
ozgenre
Jan. 28th, 2007 11:53 am (UTC)
Please do.
doomgurl
Jan. 28th, 2007 12:28 pm (UTC)
*cries*

jeskimo
Jan. 28th, 2007 01:53 pm (UTC)
She sounds like an amazing lady.

I'm incredibly sorry for your loss, sweetness.
lawtric
Jan. 28th, 2007 10:46 pm (UTC)
*Hugs*
ms_ariel
Jan. 29th, 2007 12:25 am (UTC)
We'd met though I didn't know her well. I loved her energy and spirit though. So shocked to hear the news from Wayne at Sax when I popped in Sunday afternoon. May she liven up wherever she now resides, I think she will. Condolences to those who were close. A lesson to 'sieze the day' indeed.
merry_thoughts
Jan. 29th, 2007 12:43 am (UTC)
Thanks for writing that so beautifully
_legaleagle_rxm
Jan. 29th, 2007 01:24 am (UTC)
Doh! Condolences, bro.

Thanks for the pic. I was struggling hard to make a visual connection with my now decade old memory of her, But I see that I was correct. Yep, fragile things these bods are.

Indeed, my grandmother bit it suddenly at 90-something this month. From seemingly good health to 6 ft hole overnight. Age isn't a barrier to catastrophic system failure...
haunted_roses
Jan. 29th, 2007 03:37 am (UTC)
Dear Craig,

I was so Lucky to had met Ave just the once
and that One time she changed my life forever!!!!
she gave me so much inner strenth
as i write this My heart is Broken
why is it Only the good die young.

My condolences to you
in your time of sorrow
May your heart be comforted
today and tomorrow

You'll miss their presence
being there all around
But I can assure you
they've moved to better ground

They closed their eyes
here on this earth
But opened them to heaven
where there is new birth.
with love and respect Maria.
misskittiness
Jan. 29th, 2007 06:26 am (UTC)
She seems really amazing. Sadly the greatest people always live a short life....but they always make a big impact.
ladymalory
Jan. 30th, 2007 02:02 am (UTC)
As you know my thoughts are with you as this time for people like this the heavens should be thankful they recieve them. I think at one time or another we have all ahd one person who has been there for us when we needed them. My blessings on you and all around you who knew this incredible person. Blessed Be and give hell.
goldfishgeorge
Jan. 31st, 2007 09:15 am (UTC)
*hugs*

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